Help Your Child Overcome Nameless Anxiety
Free-floating anxiety is arousal that shapes behavior. It can enter the brain during preverbal development. Experiences such as: adoption, NICU experience, separation from Mom, a difficult birth, even high stress for Mom while she is pregnant contribute to it.
3 Keys to reduce free floating anxiety
- Use 3rd person self-talk: “Fred,” there is nothing to be afraid of. You can do this. You have succeeded before. Research in Psychology Today shows that replacing worry thoughts with a friendly 3rd person voice that uses your name increase success.
- Locate body sensations; add breath and movement right at that location. Is the heart like butterflies, the stomach in knots, the mind racing, throat tight, shoulders up to the ears? Find the primary tension, add breath, and move energy around the body. Wiggle the toes.
- Identify Auditory, Tactile, or Visual Triggers. What set off the anxiety? Is it too many people around, a need for rest, an “anniversary” date of a “bad” experience, too loud of an environment? Naming the trigger and resetting the perceptions helps the bodymind relax.
Parents with tools to help reduce anxiety help their entire family
We are designed to respond to the “energy” of our environment. One person’s anxiety can drag a whole family into irritability, or disconnection and lack of ease. People try to escape the situation or punish the offender. resulting in more family upset.
The Adoptive Parents Handbook Helps All Families, not just adoption
This book is simple guide that offers parents solutions to:
- The Frustration/Despair Cycle
- Sneaky Power
- Shame-based behavior
- How to work as a parenting team