It’s all about Energy! Who else would you have so much investment in than your intimate partner? Their life directly impacts yours! The good news is that skills do help. And, getting to the emotions hiding behind the conflicts.
Learn some skills, both energetic and emotional, to help you get out of a feeling of being trapped. The bodymind holds stories from the past that influence the present. Using somatic body-centered methods helps interrupt bad habits in partnership, and also those limiting beliefs that scare people away from deep connection and love.
Couples often Get stuck in the Power Struggle
Here are 5 tips to learn to return to nourishment:
- stop and breathe, look around, and find something visual that brings you comfort
- remind yourself what brought you two together
- open your listening ears and look at why a behavior is so triggering
- schedule time to talk that is limited, and followed by something nourishing
- find ways to enjoy a shared physical activity, such as playful wrestling, or social dancing, so everything is not either mental or sexual.
Often we bring triggers from the past, even our own unconscious, and this makes it hard to find peace. Also, look at what you might be telling yourself. Negative self-talk is detrimental to healing.
Finally, if you are losing connection in the bedroom, get professional help. Partnership is demanding, and renewing energetically, physically, and playfully can remind you of why you are together, and how you are learning and growing.
Getting help used to be shameful. Now it is just smart. My parents gave up on each other because they couldn’t get through the conflicts. There are many more resources now, and therapy is more common place. Get the help you need!
5 things worth talking about for couples:
- how to handle money
- what kinds of things are nourishing for each person
- how each of you learns to settle when under stress
- what things scare you the most? Are they triggers from the past
- what makes you feel special?
Remember, if you have lost the flow of energy and are stuck in conflict, Call Today! 720-839-4332