Are you tired of your child’s or spouse’s behavior? Or your own? Does it seem as if things just won’t change, no matter how hard you have tried? You just might not have explored the earliest experiences encoded in your brain. Our primitive brain and brainstem decide is the world is safe and if we are going to survive. A difficult birth, or post-birth care can have lasting impressions deep in the brainstem.
Symptoms that can be unknowingly related to Birth Trauma include:
- Nameless anxiety, depression, or restless sleep
- Self-attack thinking or behavior
- Procrastinate or sabotage just when things are going well
- Try too hard to please others
- Withdraw socially
- Argue repetitively
- Constantly control or correct others
- Have a heightened fear of flying
These are just some of the symptoms of fear lodged deep in the primitive brain. Such fears make it hard to relax around others, finish projects, feel good about yourself, or even to get rest at night.
3 Tips for Healing Birth Trauma related to Depression
- Breathe into your depression and become curious about the sensations of it. Notice if it is gray, black, heavy or textured. See if you can land at the “bottom of it” and push off?
- Find the emotion inside the heaviness or the void and add breath so you have enough brain energy to stay present to your healing
- Set a timer for 20 minutes and go to the bottom of your depression, look around, and come out of it. Be sure to drink water, go for a walk, or head someplace where others are gathered simply so you have a little social interaction.
Learn more about healing depression by understanding how anesthesias used on mothers who are giving birth can influence an infant’s brain. Many nameless depressions, inertia, procrastinations, and panic can stem from losing contact with Mom due to the numbing of anesthesias in the brain. Read Birth’s Hidden Legacy, by Annie Brook to find out more about this and tips that can help you or your loved ones to heal.
Find your way out of Depression and Heal at the level of Brain States
How can Birth’s Hidden Legacy Help me to heal Shock and Trauma?
1. Remember that an infant may perceive their birth differently than the adults around them. Your brain may have experienced bad impressions before you could think. This happens because the Amygdala of the brain which scans for danger is awake in a baby inside the womb. Infant brains record danger and a cascade of responses in the bodymind. These reappear as stress response behaviors and follow us into adulthood.
2. Learn to identify issues related to your birth story, or those of your children, and to relax and release stored impressions of fear and alarm.
3. If you don’t know your birth story, notice the sensations in your body, especially when stressed. Add breathe, notice the emotions, and do some gentle internal or external movements. Breath into a tight tummy or chest, push against the wall or arm of your chair if you feel frozen or disoriented or too upset to think straight. Movement and awareness are what bring us back to the present and out of shock.
Learn more about this in Birth’s Hidden Legacy, by Annie Brook
Hidden Stories behind Difficult Behavior may be linked to birth. Vol1 explores birth-related themes and how they influence behavior. Case studies included.
Vol 2: Therapists can help adult, infants, and children heal from early experiences that shape behavior responses, especially under stress. Help mother’s heal and reconnect to themselves and their infants.